As women, we all deserve to be treated with respect.
Unfortunately, not all men have the same understanding of what that means.
It’s not just about saying “please” and “thank you” or holding the door open for you.
Respect is about treating you as an equal, valuing your opinions, and supporting your dreams and goals.
In this post, we’ll explore ten signs that your man doesn’t respect you and what you can do about it.
10 Signs He Doesn’t Respect You
1. He Talks over You and Dismisses Your Opinion
If a man often interrupts you or talks over you when you’re in a conversation, it’s a sign that he doesn’t value your opinions or see you as his equal.
He may also dismiss your ideas or suggestions without giving them proper consideration.
This is not the behavior of a man who respects you.
In a mature relationship, you should be able to have a conversation without feeling like you’re being talked down to or not heard.
2. He Makes Jokes at Your Expense
Humor can be a great way to bond with someone, but it’s important to make sure it’s not at the expense of the other person.
If a man frequently makes jokes that put you down or make you feel embarrassed, it’s a sign that he doesn’t respect you.
The most annoying thing is that even when you tell him you don’t find his jokes funny, he dismisses your concerns or says you are too uptight and can’t take a joke.
That’s a disrespectful partner right there.
He shouldn’t dictate what should count as a joke, and he certainly shouldn’t make jokes that make you feel uncomfortable.
3. He Ignores Your Needs
A true sign of respect is when someone takes your needs into account and does his best to meet them.
If your partner constantly ignores what you want or need, it’s a clear sign that he doesn’t think very highly of you.
For example, imagine he knows you’re feeling sick but still insists on going out to a party when all you want to do is stay at home and rest.
That’s a definite sign that he doesn’t respect your feelings or listen to what you need.
4. He Doesn’t Keep His Word
Respect involves being honest and trustworthy.
If a man frequently breaks promises or doesn’t follow through on commitments, it’s a sign that he doesn’t respect you or your time.
This can range from not showing up when he said he would, to cancelling plans at the last minute without giving you a good reason.
All these behaviors indicate that he doesn’t take your feelings into consideration and isn’t committed to making an effort to show you respect.
5. He Flirts With Other Women
Cheating is a clear sign of disrespect for you and disregard for the relationship.
But even if your partner isn’t unfaithful, as in physically, flirting with other women in front of you or talking about them is a sign that he doesn’t respect you.
It’s his way of telling you that he doesn’t need to take your feelings into account because he doesn’t think it’s important.
If a man respects you and doesn’t want to lose you, he won’t risk making you feel disrespected.
He will show restraint, even if he isn’t interested in another woman romantically, because he knows it won’t sit well with you.
6. He Yells At You
Yelling and screaming are forms of verbal abuse.
Your partner shouldn’t be speaking to you this way, no matter how angry or upset he is.
It’s a sign that he doesn’t think your feelings are important and that he believes his anger is more important than your wellbeing.
Even as parents, we often feel guilty when we yell at our kids.
Now imagine a guy who constantly yells at you, especially when he’s mad.
He clearly doesn’t care about your feelings and is only interested in making sure his opinion is heard.
7. He Ignores Your Thoughts and Ideas
A healthy relationship is one that involves listening to both partners’ opinions.
If your partner doesn’t take the time to listen to your thoughts and ideas or just brushes them off as insignificant, then it’s a sign he isn’t respecting you.
He should be willing to discuss things with you and give proper consideration to your suggestions.
8. He Doesn’t Listen to Your No’s
Consent is a vital component of any healthy relationship.
If a man doesn’t respect your “no” or tries to pressure you into doing something you’re not comfortable with, it’s a sign that he doesn’t respect you as a person.
You have the right to set your own boundaries and have them respected.
9. He Blames You for His Behavior
If a man consistently blames you for his own behavior or emotions, it’s a sign that he doesn’t take responsibility for his actions.
Instead of owning up to his mistakes and working to improve, he’s trying to shift the blame onto you.
A respectful partner will take responsibility for their actions and work to do better in the future because thy think you deserve better.
If a man isn’t willing to do this, he doesn’t respect you enough to be in a relationship with you.
10. He Tries to Control You
Respect involves recognizing and honoring your partner’s autonomy.
If a man tries to control what you do, who you see, or what you wear, it’s a sign that he doesn’t respect your right to make your own decisions.
He’s treating you like a child and that doesn’t spell respect in any way.
No one deserves to be in a relationship where they don’t feel valued or respected.
If any of these signs sound familiar, it’s time to take a step back and re-evaluate your relationship.
You deserve to be in a healthy relationship with someone who values and respects you for who you are.
First, learn to speak up and stand up for yourself.
Trust your gut, listen to your heart, and make sure that you also hold power in the relationship.
Then set boundaries and stick to them.
If he doesn’t respect you still, ask yourself if this is the right person for you.